I’m just going to lay this straight out, forgiving others who have hurt you is HARD!!! If someone comes along and hurts you or your family in any way you probably have certain feelings towards that individual. I’m going to take a gander and assume those feeling probably aren’t of joy and forgiveness. But I’m here to tell you that you can find JOY in FORGIVENESS.
Its ok, to feel anger against someone who wronged you, in fact anger is not a sin. God himself felt anger. Why else would he have flooded the earth because the people weren’t following his commands and living in sin (see Noah’s ark in the book of Genesis) he was ticked off you guys!
OK, I’m not telling you its ok to drowned the person who hurt you because that would be wrong, like really wrong! God did this BEFORE he sent down Jesus to live here on earth and later die; forgiving us of our sins
” But God demonstrates His own love towards us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us” – Romans 5:8
We are sinners, and the person who hurt you is also a sinner…just…like…you. Does that make what they did to you OK? Absolutely NOT but here’s the deal; holding onto all that hurt, all those negative feelings, all that anger is only giving that person more power over your life. STOP giving them power, instead give them forgiveness.
It is not going to be easy, I promise you that. But, I do not think what Jesus endured on the cross to forgive us was easy on him either. We did nothing to deserve His forgiveness in our lives and the person who hurt you has nothing to deserve your forgiveness.
” And whenever you stand praying, forgive if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father aslo who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.” -Mark 11:25
Again, feeling angry is not a sin, but what you do with that anger can easily become sinful. Holding onto it is allowing hateful thoughts into your mind and that is a sin. So WE need forgiveness from God but in order to claim the joy that comes from that we need to first forgive those who have harmed us. (see verse above)
It does not have to be some big thought out prayer, you don’t have to wish them good fortune and health, you simply just need to forgive (name) for the harm they have caused you just as God has forgiven you time and time again”
Forgiveness isn’t sign of weakness, it’s taking your life back! It’s living in peace, it’s bold, it’s showing you are no longer controlled by the actions anyone else but yourself.